I don’t know what to say except I don’t think I ever got tired of being single. And that’s because I refuse to let other people define my happiness completely. So maybe that’s your answer. And love of self. Genuine love of self, not to be mistaken for egotism .
On a broader thought, I think most things/states of being “get boring everyday”. Even when you’re in a relationship. So I’ll tell you this now before you make the mistake of jumping the next available guy for whom you have even the slightest liking for for the sake of excitement: It’ll eventually get boring, too. So choose and believe the right reasons for being in a relationship even before you enter one—to me, the excitement factor is one of the lowest criteria because I know it will be short-lived in the grand scheme of things, although it goes without saying that you can make exciting things happen any time in a relationship. But even excitement gets boring, you know? The only reason anyone should be in love is love. Roll your eyes all you want but that’s that.
However, conversely but ironically, there can be many reasons for being in a relationship outside of love. You can do it to be “in love”, to have the benefit of the thrill, to dig gold, for posterity, intimacy, security, what-have-you. And it will end in heartbreak; it really will. But that’s good because only in extreme heartbreak situations (when you believe you were really truly loving someone) do most people get the chance to do an EXTENSIVE, INTENSIVE spring-cleaning due to a shattered ego huhu. Philosophic inquiry of the self, the other, the world, time, mortality, all of it will eventually be touched upon in the reflection brought about by heartbreak. And if you do it right, you will end up a better person capable of, deserving of, and understanding of love. And then you will realize how absurd your current frame of mind is in the eyes of the enlightened (your future heartbroken self and others of the same philosophical caliber).
So I encourage you to get your heart broken soon to get the full impact of this message, but not before you try and practice to love yourself first, then a craft/an object/a vocation/nature/a cause/etc, so that you can maybe avoid having your heart shattered in the first place. Attempting to love a person in the real sense of love without going through simpler, even erroneous versions of love is like trying to get to fight in the boss stage of a game without collecting ammo and skills first throughout the easier stages. It’s stupid, but at least you learn and see firsthand how strong the Boss really is.
I think, in the end, it’s something we choose to do.
Some people will argue, “but I can’t help that I like him/her,” to me this is just on a basis of attraction, a projection of ideals that doesn’t necessarily immediately denote love. For this reason, people DO develop attachments to people they want physically, personality-wise, or even for reasons beyond them. But this is a common misrepresentation of love, because “falling in love” is not equal to “love” itself. We CHOOSE to love, as in the act of love. We can develop attractions but it is entirely up to us if we choose to love who we are attracted to, and there are strict criteria on defining what constitutes love from all the things we mistake it for. We can learn to love.
It is deliberate; otherwise it can’t be love. The nature of love entails choice and voluntary offering of oneself. To be loving is a disposition, therefore one cannot be a “slave of love”. You cannot love against your will because that isn’t love, therefore it can’t just happen without your willing it to. You feel me?
At the same time, I think that love is natural to humans, even primitive or hard-wired into our compositions. Don’t ask me why, I can’t explain. But it may require a learning process in order for the mind to understand and define it in a way that we can categorize it according to “real” and “not real” love, a concept, again, defined by social constructs and the valuations given to us by our human culture.
Funny that you would ask this, I just watched a season of Heroes last night! Haha. I’d love to have the power to create compelling and powerful illusions, both “real” and fantastical. I love creating worlds, vast worlds where things could be different and better at the same time. It’s the power to create and destroy, albeit only in the realm of the unreal, which, if I were so inclined (which I am), would make me willingly surrender to it. It’s my ultimate temptation. Not a chance to play God, but a chance to see the stirrings of my imagination come to life without harming anyone or anything along the way. It’s the epitome of human creatorship, and I don’t know/want any other super power than that.
Well, okay. If not that, then I want the power to automatically have appropriate background music into anything that happens in my life. :))
I have things to say to the world. I just need to be asked. http://formspring.me/shairamp
After 10 years of not having logged in to this account, I come back now to give you lovely friends a reason why. :)
I’ve abandoned this account for my WordFish Poetry / WordFish Prose Tumblogs. :) I grew tired of reblogging things, none of which reflect my own work or basta, the essence of blogging got lost on me somewhere down the reblogging culture of Tumblr. So I decided to come up with my own literary pages, in which I strive to express myself in limited fictional terms (so as to keep some measure of secrecy, or privacy if you will). If you find that it’s to your liking, please follow those instead of this cheap dump. :D
As such, it is moot to follow this blog. However, from time-to-time I do post some of my more interesting Formspring question-and-answer tidbits here, for reference. Sometime in the future, also, I feel that I will come back here to write essays that may be too personal for my supposedly-detached WordFish works. I just can’t be assed to log in and out as often as would be ideal.
Hoping to see more of my friends enjoying WordFish,
Liane
I’m no kitty lover but, wow. Possibly the cutest thing I’ve ever seen next to the panda doing the dougie. :)
Ahihihi. :> Well-spotted, Stranger, this is at the top of the career section of my bucket-list. :)) I’ve thought this out extensively, and I still can’t decide if I would write a book of:
1) Poetry - by far the easiest to compile, but not exactly profitable, if at all.
2) General fiction - that’s just it, it’s too general. How will I grab anyone’s attention?
3) Fantasy novel - epic workload (which I’ve already begun drafting in high school hihi), and with a limited market too. Extremely nerdy and may not get the kind of recognition I’m aiming for.
4) Sci-Fi fantasy a la Neil Gaiman - as much as I’d love to, I’m not exactly made for this, I think. But extremely marketable.
5) Short stories - of various genre, will make for my best option. But I have trouble shortening stories what with my love of words.
6) Essays - my favorite of all, but until I’m a no-namer will get me exactly nowhere.
7) Basic language textbooks. From having studied languages, I’ve come to know of the best methods to teach each language. I see many horrible and expensive textbooks out there and I can’t stand it. I want to make language-learning affordable for everybody.
After my studies, a Master’s degree on a similar line, I would love to write a thesis or dissertations on linguistics and semantics of Romance languages vis-a-vis East Asian structures. Possibly to aid East Asians looking to learn Romance languages and vice versa.
I’M TOO AMBITIOUS FOR MY LIFE, LEAVE ME ALONE.
That’s just—wow—I think that’s the best compliment I’ve ever received in my entire life! Normally I test waters with people I meet by dropping a hint or two about these weird things I think of (that others have previously thought of as me being drunk, sleepy, hungry, or crazy), and at the first signs of confusion, I resume my shallow demeanor to maintain conversation. Hahaha. I never thought of it as being a telltale sign of a writer (a generic artist, maybe), but now the line “seeing through rose-colored glasses” seems to mean so much more than just being optimistic and cheerful! Haha. Indeed some things in the world have a rosy outline when I look at them. :))
Thank you so much. Cheers to the beauty of the universe! <3
